Rooted Wednesdays Vol. 36 In reality, I want the time

I’ve spent a lot of time trying to make my hair fit inside of a timeline.

Make wash day shorter. Detangle faster. Figure out the right routine. Get my length back. Find the product that works. Get through the maintenance so I can move on to the real parts of my day.

And lately I’ve been questioning that.

There’s this idea that Black hair is harder to take care of, when sometimes…it simply asks for more time. More patience. More attention.

And I’m kind of over believing that because something needs more from me, that automatically makes it harder or worse, a waste of time.

Sometimes my hair just needs more time. And I think I’ve spent so much of my life treating time like something I’m constantly losing.

If something takes too long, I’m behind.
If I’m not seeing results yet, maybe I’m doing something wrong.
If there’s a faster way, surely I should be doing that instead.

But what if taking longer isn’t always a problem to solve?

There are things that only reveal themselves through repetition. Through trying something, paying attention, getting it wrong, adjusting, and coming back again.

Hair care is one of those things for me.

Some wash days are quick. Some take the whole day. Sometimes I know exactly what I’m doing and sometimes I’m standing in the shower staring at a knot like…how did we even get here? 😭

But I don’t want to rush through all of those moments just because there’s somewhere else I could be.

I want to enjoy the time I’m already in.

Maybe that’s part of what care is. Giving something the time it actually needs instead of constantly asking it to fit into the amount of time I wish it required.

If this is something you’ve been thinking about too, I went much deeper into it in my newest video.

We talk about hair care as a chore and a hobby, trying to control every outcome, showing up without immediate evidence that something is working, and learning how to actually be present with the hair in front of you.

Watch: taking care of my hair is a hobby ⬇️